Today is Sunday and I wanted to drop by to write a very special post.
I love surprises and (maybe even more) love surprising people I love. I always have and I’m sure I always will. Actually, I wrote about it on one of the first posts I wrote here on my blog.
Last August I surprised my boyfriend with a weekend getaway. His birthday is on the 28th but we had a long weekend in the middle of the month so I decided to “force” him to relax for a couple of days. Yes, I’m mean and also – it was necessary. He’d been working non-stop for over a year and every business owner knows it’s not easy to have a break from work, so it had to be done.
The only thing he knew was to save the weekend and not book a single thing for those 3 days. He knew nothing else.
It took about 15 days of prep work. My friends recommended me a countryside hotel and I booked it. Then I had to take care of logistics. It didn’t serve meals (only breakfast) and it was a bit far from a town so I had to bring enough food for all the meals and snacks. The day before I took care of all of the essentials, placed in suitcases and put in the car before he could see it. The night before I told him we had to have breakfast and be ready by 10am the next morning. The morning we left, I took the food bags to the car before he woke up and it was all ready to go!
It may not seem as a lot to do and certainly not something that would take 15 days to prep, but it was. I’m a detail lover and everything had to be just right. I packed his favorite book, his favorite pieces of clothing, our favorite board game, my computer so we could watch a couple of movies or tv shows, his workout gear, his favorite snacks… well, you get the idea. The goal was to chill by the pool all day and sleep as much as possible. And on one of the days, we would go in town to have a special birthday dinner.
It was awesome and he loved it! I drove us for 3 hours to get there and it was totally worth it. He felt so relaxed after being there and we got to enjoy a pool, which is something that we can never do.
Here are a few photos of those 3 days. After those, we’ll get to my simple and easy guide to a great surprise! 😉
So, what can you do to prepare a surprise for someone you love? And by that I really mean anyone. It can be a family member, partner, friend, anyone. If you want to do something special, planning a surprise is a great idea.
1. Make sure the person you’re planning the surprise for, actually likes surprises. There’s nothing worse than being surprised when you hate surprises, and it can backfire quickly. If you’re not sure, ask people around that person to make sure.
2. Plan ahead. Yes, surprises can range from leaving a sticky love note on someone’s bathroom mirror to huge around the world surprise trips, but there’s always some sort of planning needed.
3. The details make the surprise even more special. When planning for, let’s say, a surprise at-home dinner for your partner, you can kick it up a notch by using things that hold special meaning to you as a couple. Also, you can make a dinner menu (and it can be handwritten, doesn’t need to be printed) or create a music playlist with his/her favorite songs.
4. Surprises don’t have to be expensive. Yes, there’s the time to spend some money on a special surprise, like we did on my sister’s 30th birthday or on the weekend getaway that I talked about above but it doesn’t have to be like that all the time. And those are really the easiest ones, you just need to think about what you can do. For example, we’ve surprised my parents and grandma a few times when we go visit them, by saying that we’ll be there on Saturday morning and actually showing up on Friday night. We were already going, just moved the trip a few hours ahead. No extra cost.
5. Surprises may be small gestures of kindness. It doesn’t always need to involve elephants bringing roses with an engagement ring inside of a rose button. It can be taking out the garbage if you never do it, while the person who always does it is out of the house. You can top it of with a small note thanking for always taking care of that. Yes, I’m corny. But I’m also thoughtful.
6. You need to adjust the level and type of surprise to the personality and context of the person you’re planning it to. What works for someone may not work at all for another person. You really need to know the personality beforehand so you can adjust whatever expectations you have for the surprise you were hoping to hold.
7. There’s no such thing as a lifetime limit for surprises. I’m a firm believer that you need to show your people, your “village”, how much you love them, while you still can. I’m not saying that you should hold a small, medium, big or huge surprise (I don’t even think they can be measured) once a month, or once a year, or even once a day. You should follow your heart and your head and do what you want.
8. Have fun!
With that said, I’ll get back to my Sunday chores. If you liked this post or if it was helpful to you, pin it and share it! I’ll thank you in advance! 😉
Have a wonderful week!